Posted on Thursday, January 22nd, 2015 by Will Hagle
Love Actualized is an app that puts couples through The Love Game, an exercise intended to increase intimacy and improve relationships.
There are plenty of apps for finding a date or a new hook up. Sometimes Tinder leads to love, but most of the time it leads to endless and pointless swiping left and right. Love Actualized is not a dating app, but it is intended to help couples or potential partners improve their relationship and possibly even fall in love during the process. The project was designed by Dr. Arthur Aron (who has conducted detailed research into “interpersonal closeness,” and it’s available for free both in mobile and browser form. The project consists of 36 questions, intended to be discussed between couples for as long as possible, as well as an additional four minute exercise.
The questions on Love Actualized are seemingly random, but they are intended to give you a deeper insight and understanding about your partner’s outlook on life. The questions begin with “Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?” and they also include couple-specific questions/exercises like “Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.” Love Actualized suggests that couples take about 90-minutes to complete the exercise. It’s interesting how the project places an emphasis on couples discussing these questions face-to-face, encouraging a deeper development of intimacy. The final exercise — staring into your partners eyes for 4 minutes — is so simple and grounded in reality rather than technology that it just might be the most effective tool for falling in love.